Honoring the chooser

I’ve never been one to be chosen. At least not in the traditional sense. I was never much of a student, went to a mediocre law school, wasn’t particularly popular in high school. I was chosen once by a big law firm, and it was one of the worst things that ever happened to me.

However, I realize that being chosen by the system is only one of the many ways we choose people. Most of these choices are far more subtle than telling an actress she got the part. Part of understanding people is recognizing when they’ve chosen you, what they’ve chosen you for, and what the choice means to them. Each time we’re chosen, we must honor the chooser, and live up to what they’ve seen in us, because as George MacDonald said “to be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.”

As a career entrepreneur, I’ve chosen myself. I may rarely be picked by the system, so I’ve created my own. My ability to help those I love through my businesses, is one of the most important things in my life. I have to be careful to honor the beliefs that drive me, and surround myself with people who will both inspire and nurture my vision.

Each time a client hires our agency, we’ve been chosen. People trust their businesses to us with faith that we’ll help them grow. They just as easily could have hired a competitor, but they chose us. This is a tremendous responsibility that we must be careful to honor.

When a friend shares excitement with us, we’ve been chosen. We’ve been selected as someone worth sharing hope with. If we love our friend, we will take the time to share their joy, and bask in whatever mood is appropriate, for as long as appropriate.

We meet people all the time who are reeling, and they show us just a glimpse. In that moment, we’ve been chosen. Our best can give them a moment of safety.

Being chosen is rare, and it’s an honor.

A beauty we see clearly is disregarded by another. Had we done the choosing, a different result, but what of those times that we’re the selected beauty? In those moments, we have to honor the risk that another puts in us. When another deems us suitable, we must be suitable.

To break that trust is to break our own back.

The door doesn’t close behind you…

You got really good at something. Studied, practiced, failed, ultimately succeeded. Now you’re in, part of the club.

The door doesn’t close behind you. Others will try to walk “your” path.

They may walk it better.

Getting “it,” then telling the next generation they’re pretenders is no good. More often than not, it’s a defense mechanism rooted in not wanting to believe that someone else can do what you do.

That’s a small mindset. There was a time when you couldn’t do what you do either, and if you’re growing, there are more of those days on the horizon.