“If any man despises me, that is his problem. My only concern is not doing or saying anything deserving of contempt.”
Are you reasonable?
Reasonable enough to call balls and strikes as to whether your behavior is “deserving of contempt,” as Marcus Aurelius seemed to believe he could do?
Ryan Holiday’s “The Daily Stoic,” gives us an article about how to deal with “rude and selfish people.”
All the tips assume it’s the other person that is rude and selfish.
As I write this, I am experiencing caffeine induced anxiety, which happens whenever I drink too much tea or coffee.
Only a day ago, I was calmer than I’ve been in a long time.
I don’t stay static on any front. Like the weather outside, I change from mood to mood.
The same can be said for my identity as reasonable.
Presented with two “micro crises” this afternoon, I behaved both reasonably, in a way I am proud of, as well as less than reasonably, in a way that I am not totally comfortable with.
The situation I am proud of will have someone saying nice things about me.
On the other hand, a guy in Silver Lake swears I’m a villain.
Who is right?
Both of them.
Of this much I am sure: the most reasonable people know just how unreasonable they truly are.